Flow is a state of consciousness that improves well-being, learning, and emotional stability.
Stress systems calm down, while attention and creativity ramp up. Self-consciousness fades and actions feel fluid.
Reaching Flow can be practiced, making it relevant for therapy.
In various places of the world Flow inducing activities like surfing are combined with therapy to treat depression and trauma.

When in the Flow state, actions “just work”: the next move in a game, the next step while running, the next hula-hoop spin.
Before the brain is busy controlling, judging, and asking whether it’s allowed to pause. Flow begins when these checks fade - when letting go becomes possible.

Fow feels almost magical, but it can’t be forced.
It follows a natural cycle: Struggle → Release → Flow → Recovery → Repeat. Trying too hard usually backfires.
Flow is built over time, through practice and permission, not perfection.

Flow changes the way we handle fear.
Activation - a racing heart, faster breathing, or heightened senses - no longer automatically link to danger.
The body learns: I can feel this intensity and still act safely.

Flow doesn’t replace therapy - but it expands it, offering experiences that words alone can’t provide.
It may feel like magic, but it’s also practical brain science.
The best part: The more we practice letting go, the more we improve - without trying so hard.

Some things sound more mystical, than they are.
What we call ritual or belief often works on the same biological circuitry as modern psychotherapy: attention, imagery, rhythm, and nervous system regulation.

A woman once believed she had been cursed. Objectively implausible, subjectively devastating. Her body tightened, accidents multiplied, the world turned hostile. The “ritual” she received contained no smoke or feathers - only a carefully guided therapeutic process that restored a sense of safety and agency. As her nervous system settled, the curse lost its power.

The brain does not wait for meaning. In under a second, it overlays the present with the past, replaying old relational films before consciousness can intervene.
This is not magic. It is outdated protection.

Belief matters not because the nervous system responds to lived experience over explanation.
When the body learns that it can stay present - breath returning, heart slowing - the story changes. And with it, the world we inhabit.

How would your life feel if you had a reliable internal compass - one that gently nudges you toward what’s good for you, even when life feels loud, full, or complicated?


Even though we now live in a world where information and misinformation fly faster than our nervous system can sort them - and we’re often overwhelmed by news, deadlines, expectations, and decisions - our gut feeling remains a steady companion.

It’s not esoteric randomness. It’s a complex interplay of biology, experience, and subconscious processing. When we learn to perceive this system again, we make clearer decisions, cultivate more authentic relationships, and live a life that feels like ours - not like a performance for others.

Flickering Allowed – Why Our Inner Fire Needs Care

We are allowed to have weaker phases. Our inner fire does not have to burn brightly all the time - in fact, it should not. As a psychologist and fire performer, I have always been fascinated by how naturally resources are handled in the context of fire.

New fire tools are not fully stressed right away. They are lit briefly several times before a longer burn occurs. Ideally, a torch head is extinguished before it burns out completely - in order to protect the material.

We are often far less caring with ourselves.

Avoiding burnout therefore does not mean never pushing beyond our limits. It means perceiving warning signals, taking them seriously, and responding to them. A kind of material science of the self - and its consistent application in everyday life.

The Dragon Fire of Love

When partners learn to regulate their nervous systems and to communicate authentically what they need, something magical happens:

No one has to be rescued.
 No one plays hero or victim.
 And love no longer becomes a polite arrangement, but a powerful, warm fire.

So:

Wake your inner dragon.
 Listen to your needs.
 Name them clearly - without whisper mode.

Because real intimacy does not arise from playing roles - but from courageous authenticity.
 And who knows: maybe in the end you will roar your happiness out into the world together.
 With your hearts on fire - the kind that warms without destroying.